This is not a preachy post about women power or that sort, but more about passing on an action that in many ways empowers and unifies women and in hope that you pass that on to someone else. It's simple and can be easily done everyday!
The day was awfully warm and humid for September in New York, but here I am wearing my chic(to me it is) suede red skirt and a wool vest as you see above. Wait! Did I forget to mention it was the first day of New York Fashion Week(NYFW)? Well, it was! Will, I wear that again in that weather? Don't think so! but really thought the weather would be cool. It took me a pair of weeks to put together my NYFW outfits. Anyways, it was after our shows of the day(Tadashi, Desigual and Marissa Webb), a friend and I met up for dinner at Le Grainne Café in Chelsea. If you're wondering what we had for dinner--good egg proteins! But, if you ever stop by and try their crepes--they are delicious!(can you tell this was my after-the-shows pit stop?) We went about our breakfast/dinner and discussing the shows. It was until after we were done and getting ready to go, that I noticed the nice midi boots of a woman. The next thing, she walks towards our table and the most amazing feeling overcame me at the sound of her words! She complimented our looks and said a few more other words!
It is not her words that got me, but her action! You're probably thinking, so what's the big deal with her action? Well, it is a big deal, mainly because we 'women' more commonly internally criticize/compliment each other vs. as this woman did; taking the time out to walk over to a pair of strangers and compliment them. Really, when was the last time you/I did walk over to another woman and compliment her? To say it in our heads, it is a good thing, but taking action makes an impact--as I learned. Many of us are so used to expecting it from men and we tear each other down again mentally. So, to me, she was a full confident woman, who not only looked amazing herself, but has the confidence to compliment another fellow woman. If there is any threat to be taken, it is the self-confidence of another individual. So, yes, in the world that we live in, it is something very uplifting, empowering to recognize the strengths of others and unifying! And yes, I did compliment her on her boots, but what would have been better was to go up to her and not wait until I was complimented. Lesson learned!
So, this got me thinking of why not make this a more common habit, not just compliment the woman in line with us or our friends when we greet them, but take a little honest(of course) two minutes out of our time, walk over and compliment something we like in another woman--it can and will do so much more good; at least in me it did!
Written by Mariana