At some point, we've all experience catty actions from other women members which are completely unnecessary and may we add immature! How do you handle that? Do you react as they do or be the bigger person? We must confess the first action will give an immense satisfaction momentarily that is, but will also start shaping us into that problem which we are trying to correct. Now, the second option, is hard, but will build a better us and below are ten suggestions towards that. Now, before we go ahead of ourselves and try to build on to the life of others, we have to be grounded in our skin first! It all starts with the self first--being content with what we have, knowing ourselves, recognizing our own strengths, accepting the things we can't change, working on those things we can change, having our own goals and accepting our own individuality so we can compliment others. Otherwise the ungrounded part of our of ourselves may be transparent through our immature actions. Feel free to put this list on repeat. Somethings take a while to be untrained!
Recognize - The first step to building each other up is recognizing the strengths in other women and be content for her. This sets the ground to not only building another person up, but also building a more positive you. So, at the first negative and what some feel 'threatening' thought, remember that we all have our own personal strengths. She has hers, you have yours.
Smile - When you're out-and-about and see other women just smile. This radiates good energy and knocks down these guard walls we build around ourselves. Something some of us can use throughout our day. Of course, the smile must be with pure intention and genuine.
Compliment - Upon meeting women pals, right away compliment her/them on their outwardly. Remember we dress for ourselves. So, we're just showing appreciation for their choices.
Congratulate - Small or big when in conversation, do interrupt and congratulate her on accomplishments.
Energy - We all want to hear we're beautiful, but what holds more power is telling her about the type energy she radiates.
Listen - Just listen. Don't try to solve her problems. Just listen.
Treat Her - Be spontaneous and treat your friend out. It doesn't always mean splitting the bill. Surprise her with something she likes. These are very uplifting actions in our busy days.
Be Active - Do contribute, support and take part in your pals goals. Supporting could just be simple as asking how's she coming along in her goals and ask if there is anything you can do to help. It also doesn't mean doing the goals for your pal. It just means using your strengths to support hers.
Keep Silent - One of the first things that tends to come out of our mouth is the negativity of others gal members. This also tends to spread out like wild fire without realizing we're messing with someone's reputation and image. It is more damaging to the self than it is to her because it's saying all about your persona. So, unless she is endangering herself or others, her lesser strengths and the things she confides in you should remain to yourself. Put it this way, next time you're tempted to talk your smack or volunteer giving off someone's personal business, imagine her there with you--this should calm your anxiety down. This also means changing the conversation when other gal pals start negatively indulging in the lives of others. So, like they say, "If you have nothing good to say, don't say it all!"
Build - Not sure at what stage in our women lives are we conditioned to out-do each other. The truth of the matter is that yes, it is a natural human feeling to compete, but it's really unhealthy for the mind and body to focus all our energy to become better than someone else, when we are all individually made and hold individual strengths. It just doesn't correlate. When a woman knows herself, she focuses her energy to do her thing to the best of her capabilities and potential and moves on to helping others come to their full potential. At the end of the day, we will not receive more or less from what is written in our destiny for us and what is certain is our individual potential and all we can give off from it.
Written by Mariana