Written by Mariana Aguilera
If you think life is at its best in your 20's--think again! While some of us are still in the making, there are a group of women who got it all down; know what they want, handle things like bosses, fearless, will set you straight, educate nations, and raise other women with them in the process. They are age mature women!
You can say I was wise when in my adolescence years I took noticed of the interesting things my aunts would say. Little did I know that their words would come in extremely handy down the road in my adult life. It was in my late teens that I started making friends with women in their 30's - 80's. There was this different type of energy I got from them and which I enjoyed so much--serene but enriching! It has always put me ahead of the game of life. For example one difference between my younger friends and mature ones was how we dealt with uncertainty; with my young friends, it would scare us but dealt it with hope. With my mature friends, they dealt it with affirmation. The way I view mature women is in all honestly full of life to give! As I start to move towards the best of my life, I look back at these friendships and to the friends gone in much enjoyment, gratitude and with pleasure I share with you ways these type of friendships will enrich your life. The truth of the matter is that we all need each other at different phases of our life. One thing, I always advice is rule number ONE(and only rule): Friendships must happen naturally and not for convenience.
COMPETE WITH YOURSELF
This is one of the best concepts I have learned from my mature friends. A women can be competitive but don't loose yourself in the process--do it with integrity for you. The focus is to become a better you and view those in the race as stimulants that challenge you to become better.
Depending on the environment we grew up, women sometimes tend to be looked at as money-hungry and materialistic while still being expected to succeed at home in our professions when concern with a man's livelihood. I learned this very early on--that people that think like that just feed into the patriarchy problem of the world. There is definitely nothing wrong with wanting a man at equal or higher financial security status--after all in our modern times, we are both expected to carry about a family and a household.
AHEAD OF THE GAME
Trust those that have been there before you. Oh, yes! They will always put you ahead of the game of life and save you from certain decisions. Much of my mature friends have a no-tolerance attitude not because they don't care(ok, maybe some don't), but in true essence, they know where to invest their energy. I can't tell you how far this will take you. Spending time on nonsense drama is truly a waste of time and that includes wasting our own energy on people not our frequency. This is something that takes practice or a life-long process to learn; I prefer to practice now.
SAVE THE HEARTACHE
Face it! At 20 or even 30 something, we don't know everything and it's a feisty world out there! I will tell you knowledge and wisdom are our best amour. Man and life advice from mature friends will save you headaches. Ya! one might not want to hear it at the time given, but you will be thankful down the road. I still recall these words at age 18 from an admirable woman: "a woman can equally love a rich or poor man." This can be interpreted in many ways--my way was, my heart is not for sale and I will invested like I invest money, to someone who will give me a return--note I come from the financial world. Then again, if you had friend gems and we listen before things happen, most heartaches might be avoided.