So Superman, you put yourself in a good situation and are in a relationship with that very important girl. Where do you from here to developing the full potential of this bond and what to do in those instances when crap hits the fan? First, let it be clear that only a woman knows what it takes to be in a relationship with a woman- yeah, taking advise from your male buddy might not be a bright idea. Next, let's clear up some misconceived ideas(by your kind) that could be signs the problem may be, well you because when you start putting generalizing labels(crazy, clingy, needy, overbearing, and manipulative) on your partner, you basically have been checked-out of the relationship, but lingering around in body, or if you start off a relationship with these labels as descriptors of women, not only have you short-changed yourself, the potential of the relationship and your partner.
So, before you jump to thinking that we are crazy, clingy, needy, overbearing, and manipulative, yes we are crazy (about you, we did make the choice to be with you). Also, do remember the basics of physics- to every action, there's a reaction. Clingy (because you are one of our priorities and let's see, we did enter a serious relationship). Needy (when we give more than we receive, we did commit together to make it work, right? So when you stop giving, it's common sense one side will seem needy). Overbearing (because while your mind is quite simply, and extraordinarily, only occupied by one single thought upon waking up- put pants on, we women have already thought about the breakfast that needs to be made, clothes that can only be front-side ironed- because time escapes us, restocking the fridge- because your binge eating has turned into a disorder, ingredients needed for dinner- because you binged ate tonight’s dinner ingredients too, dishes which absolutely have to be washed today- because crickets can be heard when the cabinet doors open, and the fact that the dirty laundry pile and clean laundry pile have intertwined on the bedroom floor. This is by no means an exhaustive list. Do you see the lack of balance here? Do adult and share the responsibilities, we're not your mother or caretaker. The point of a relationship is to work as a team and independently to make it succeed. So, roll-up your sleeves and apply yourself where needed. Then maybe we can choose ‘laid-back, tucked into sofa, wearing stained PJs, surrounded by yesterday’s crumbs, honey just relax’ look. Manipulative (ok you guys came up with that one all by your selves and then actually convince yourselves that you are smart to ascribe a big word descriptor to our name). Eye roll 360 degrees, followed by a counterclockwise eye roll 360 degrees. So when you take charge, it's called 'control' in the good sense of the works but when we do, it's called 'manipulative' in the negative sense of the word.
Having that said, let me provide you some perspective to your gnarly claims and give you a woman's insider guide to developing the full potential of a relationship with a woman because after all, who else would know better how to be in a relationship with a woman, then a woman? I have tactfully abridged 5 T’s to help you. I’ve kept the T words small, and explanations concise so as not to overwhelm your brains. Let’s begin.
Time equals value in a relationship. For example, connect with her throughout the day, spend an evening working on a project of her choice or how about watching one of her favorite tv shows for a change.
It's temptingly easy to say a few words to dismiss the smallest issue but the truth, even in the most trivial instances, reinforces sincerity, which will strengthen your bond beyond just the physical aspect of the relationship. If you didn't like the taco, just say yuck!
Otis Redding figured this one out decades ago and things have not changed. Even though we are strong, confident, fervent, and impassioned to take it all on, we turn to you for affirmation, sometimes. When you meet us with tender heart, action, and words it keeps the juices of the relationship flowing.
It’s extremely crucial to understand that physical interaction and subtle touches throughout the day connects the energies of two somatic entities consciously choosing to share time, space, and parts of us with one another. It can be playful and also extremely intimate.
I’m not sure why man’s viscera begin to cringe at the thought of talking. We cannot read your minds, you cannot read ours. Sharing opinions, feelings, and vocalizing thoughts helps to create a smooth sailing relationship. So lets keep a healthy conversation going- by healthy I mean listening and valuing each other's thinking. Talking is not belittling, bickering, or rudely interjecting. Talking is openness and willingness to begin a conversation giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.
There you have it. An insiders guide for men interested in developing the full potential of a successful relationship down to a T, or 5 T’s.