Nothing makes our mommies happier than seeing us safe, successful and at peace! So, if you got that down, you have a pleased mommy and Mother's Day pretty much wrapped up! Because the reality is that our selfless mommies don't tend to look for special days or gifts to be celebrated--these women are daily celebrating us in all their actions and to many many of them, that is enough! But of course, the special daughters that we are and our infinite love for our mommies, we strive to make certain days, if not, all days, special for her--yes, ok, some of us come into that realization in adulthood, but the beautiful aspects of our mommies are that they are so forgiving and patient. So, it is never too late to start showing our appreciation for them! Flowers and gifts should never be discounted in showing our appreciation for them, but they should just be the seal to the appreciation experience with them! So, let's get deep and creative in ways that are lasting for the year because we know we owe ourselves to them on a daily basis!
Mommy Daughter Day
Yes! Yes! Yes! We know, we have busy lives! But, just like we can make time for everyone else, create a very special mother-daughter day once a month. Heck!, create a tradition where it is only about you two experiencing things you both like--not only does it draw you closer, but also gives you the opportunity to know mommy on a different level [she did have a life before you]. You will be surprised how sacrificing many moms can be that they put themselves and their self-fulfillments in the backburner for their children. If once a month is still too busy for you, do at least an annual day. Taking turns doing things you both like! When we say Mommy Daughter Day, we're talking about a full on day! So plan ahead. Remember that this day is for you to both know each other.
Listen to Her Day
This is probably the one most important actions you can do to show appreciation to mom and probably the one action that will allow you to learn about her other sides as a woman. We are so about me, me and more me when it comes down talking to our moms. Turn the focus around by dedicating a day to calling her or sitting with her for a few minutes to just listen to her--the key is to ask questions. For example, ask how was her day--this is important specially as our parents grow older. We want to know what's on their minds and acknowledge their thoughts and emotions on their daily activities. Do remember to keep bringing the conversation to be about her at least for the major part--mom's are so trained to make everything about us! Other places that can make a ground to listening to her is over a weekly dinner and/or coffee dates.
Just Her Day
Aside Mother's Day of course, make a day out of the month that is just dedicated to granting her one wish she wants! We mean any wish, but don't worry, moms won't ask to do crazy things--most likely they will ask us to do work, but you know what? It's her wish! Make it clear that this day is just for her one wish. Yes! we know it may sound cheezy, but it's a fun way to please mom and making her feel extra special.
Other gratitude act ideas include:
- Pray with her.
- Asking for her forgiveness for your shortcomings.
- Paying her bills.
- Telling her how much you appreciate the things she has done for you with a simple thank you.
- Being thoughtful throughout the day by getting her maybe her favorite flowers, sweet or movie.
- Giving her a day off and taking her out to dinner.
- Just cuddle next to her.
- Be extra patient with her.
- Ask her to read you a story.
- Show her something new, whether it's a new city view.
- Take her star gazing and talk about each other's dreams.
- Volunteer together for a cause.
- Start a business together.
- Ask her to sing you that one song when you were a child.
- Take up a new sport together.
* Do remember that it is about being consistent. What other things would you add to the list?
Written by Mariana Aguilera