Promise there won't be too much venting. Lie, we are charged! Just this morning as we went about doing our regular Monday things, we overheard a discussion on a media channel about women and wearing 'age-appropriate' clothing--encouraging women to do so. The first thought, well two, came two mind--why are media outlets still encouraging this? and ok, maybe some do really need to stick to their age, or not. We felt divided thoughts. After going about our day, we moved on to take a break and read some fashion and style sites. Don't know what it was maybe the earlier day emotions, but we felt like enough is enough! After scrolling through a beauty post that was titled 'Make Your Eyes Bigger', we felt the site's disconnection from reality--well, at least ours! It brought to our attention an archived memory; the saddest conversation we heard over Winter, wearing fake butt underwear--like did she really say that and they all agreed? Huh? Yes, now you get our climax drift. It's time to have a conversation--well, vent for us and you hopefully listen.
How many How-To's do we need? Are we perceived that senseless on dressing? I get it, a minority of us need a bit of direction in some areas. Why do some fashion, style and beauty sites keep encouraging us to make our 'eyes-wider', have 'fuller-lips', look like a celebrity and on and on? Some of us, perhaps even many of us are very happy the way we are and perhaps it is through these articles that women start questioning themselves and their image. Matter of fact, it is! "One study reports that at age thirteen, 53% of American girls are "unhappy with their bodies." This grows to 78% by the time girls reach seventeen." according to the University of Washington on the effects of media's effect on body image. How about instead of telling us 'How-To' wear something, you just give us 'creative' ideas and we choose what fits best our persona. And instead of keep encouraging us to have all these body things, some of us don't have, encourage us and give us, now this is where 'How-To's' become essential, ways to work with what we got! There, not only did we complain, but offered a solution.
Sure, fashion and style is fun, but it should also have a sense of grounded reality--one thing is expressing yourself at 60 years old in a pink tutu, which by the way reminds us of some really inspiring Advanced Style ladies, who heartily promote being yourself and it's a whole other story not being happy with yourself and trying to fit an 'IT' girl illusion or the many self-made star personalities roaming social media. As someone said, "The new it girl has everything she wants, but on her terms!" That's right tribe members, it's on our terms, when we want it, if it fits us and if it's good for us. So, we encourage you to work with your individuality, use your favorite social media personalities as 'inspiration' not a mold to fit, to be ok and make work what you got. Because, at the end of the day, it's you being content, appreciative, grateful for your own blessings and what will honestly make you truly fulfilled and grow a healthy strong mind and personality--not happy, gosh! that's a whole other subject, searching for happiness is so overrated, for another day tribe member! Stay cool and don't let anything or anyone tell you what defines you, if it works for you or jives your personal style, fine. So, what's your personal verdict? Should media stop telling us this?
Written by Mariana